Bad Wolf. Very bad wolf.
Jul. 21st, 2008 03:44 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gementContinued from previous post on A Companion to Wolves.
3:01 a.m.: Not a win. It's four hours after I went to bed. I talked it out, sobbing, with J, giving him more details than I have ever given about my own work (he squicks easily) because I couldn't stomach it alone. It was so clearly painful for me that he was too busy being comforting to squick, which is saying something.
I tried his suggestion of reading the last page to break the book's suspense, tried his suggestion of reading something else (got 5 paragraphs into![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
rm's newest Torchwood fic and just couldn't focus, which is a very very bad sign), and went back to bed still buzzing.
I approached my dearest fictional sadist, Aldo, for a fix of all-consuming consensual torture to rock me to sleep. I even approached his masochist for help, told my long-suffering chewtoy that every indignity he has ever suffered has been my fault and that there would be no consequences for getting his own back, not even on his conscience. He'd never remember because it wouldn't be canon. And that I wanted it, which he needed to hear, which even Aldo needed to hear, because I wired them both that way.
It didn't help. They tried, but I kept getting flashbacks to what my brain keeps perceiving as irretrievable, sickeningly cloaked non-con in the book. I finally went to sleep, snapped awake a little while ago, tried again. Still couldn't focus on them, still couldn't wash the nastiness out of my brain.
My loyal readers, when I told you that I was cautious about sharing Gerard's trial by fire with y'all? When I told you that I was self-conscious about even writing down that kind of non-con? This is what I meant.
(I've also written down proper, brazen non-con, but that doesn't keep me up because it's presented unambiguously as such, perpetrated by villains (or once by Aldo again making a terrible mistake), and by the time I wrote it down I was bullet-proof to my internal critic's opinions on socially unacceptable fantasies.)
And in the end, as you have all carefully explained to me, Gerard consented. He's leashed, but he's the one that handed Aldo that leash. I keep trying to tell myself that this boy handed his wolf that leash just as willingly, but something's just different and I can't explain and maybe there's no difference. After all, this boy can even walk away. He has that choice, which Gerard does not.
Maybe that fear is what's keeping me up.
Edit: And perhaps the difference is, Aldo apologized. Aldo recognized it as a mistake. No one ever apologized to this boy for "a bad first mating frenzy" that left him delirious with shock and pain for two days, when he did everything he was supposed to, was a good boy, didn't fight. That left him no longer able to meaningfully say that his relationship was worth it, only that it was what it was. WHICH IS ABUSIVE, by my lights.
That was the betrayal. I was waiting for them to resolve it, that either he'd panic and fight and a bad experience would be what he needed to break through to acceptance or he'd do it right and they'd do it right and he'd learn that it wasn't that frightening. That was what they'd built up to with all their "we wouldn't throw a virgin boy into that" and their "you'll work up to it slowly with one boy your own age that you trust." That still wouldn't make the overall dynamics okay for me, but that the reward for doing it right was a life-threatening worst night of his life, that was author betrayal.
Sorry, I'm babbling. I'm going to go see if Gerard's come up with something cruel enough to distract me.
4:15. I keep reading and rereading these two posts and adding more clauses instead of going to sleep. Trying again. Thank you, those of you patient enough to read through this, for helping me process. Any thoughts either supporting my interpretation or giving me a way to think about it that doesn't make me nauseous would be appreciated.
3:01 a.m.: Not a win. It's four hours after I went to bed. I talked it out, sobbing, with J, giving him more details than I have ever given about my own work (he squicks easily) because I couldn't stomach it alone. It was so clearly painful for me that he was too busy being comforting to squick, which is saying something.
I tried his suggestion of reading the last page to break the book's suspense, tried his suggestion of reading something else (got 5 paragraphs into
rm's newest Torchwood fic and just couldn't focus, which is a very very bad sign), and went back to bed still buzzing.I approached my dearest fictional sadist, Aldo, for a fix of all-consuming consensual torture to rock me to sleep. I even approached his masochist for help, told my long-suffering chewtoy that every indignity he has ever suffered has been my fault and that there would be no consequences for getting his own back, not even on his conscience. He'd never remember because it wouldn't be canon. And that I wanted it, which he needed to hear, which even Aldo needed to hear, because I wired them both that way.
It didn't help. They tried, but I kept getting flashbacks to what my brain keeps perceiving as irretrievable, sickeningly cloaked non-con in the book. I finally went to sleep, snapped awake a little while ago, tried again. Still couldn't focus on them, still couldn't wash the nastiness out of my brain.
My loyal readers, when I told you that I was cautious about sharing Gerard's trial by fire with y'all? When I told you that I was self-conscious about even writing down that kind of non-con? This is what I meant.
(I've also written down proper, brazen non-con, but that doesn't keep me up because it's presented unambiguously as such, perpetrated by villains (or once by Aldo again making a terrible mistake), and by the time I wrote it down I was bullet-proof to my internal critic's opinions on socially unacceptable fantasies.)
And in the end, as you have all carefully explained to me, Gerard consented. He's leashed, but he's the one that handed Aldo that leash. I keep trying to tell myself that this boy handed his wolf that leash just as willingly, but something's just different and I can't explain and maybe there's no difference. After all, this boy can even walk away. He has that choice, which Gerard does not.
Maybe that fear is what's keeping me up.
Edit: And perhaps the difference is, Aldo apologized. Aldo recognized it as a mistake. No one ever apologized to this boy for "a bad first mating frenzy" that left him delirious with shock and pain for two days, when he did everything he was supposed to, was a good boy, didn't fight. That left him no longer able to meaningfully say that his relationship was worth it, only that it was what it was. WHICH IS ABUSIVE, by my lights.
That was the betrayal. I was waiting for them to resolve it, that either he'd panic and fight and a bad experience would be what he needed to break through to acceptance or he'd do it right and they'd do it right and he'd learn that it wasn't that frightening. That was what they'd built up to with all their "we wouldn't throw a virgin boy into that" and their "you'll work up to it slowly with one boy your own age that you trust." That still wouldn't make the overall dynamics okay for me, but that the reward for doing it right was a life-threatening worst night of his life, that was author betrayal.
Sorry, I'm babbling. I'm going to go see if Gerard's come up with something cruel enough to distract me.
4:15. I keep reading and rereading these two posts and adding more clauses instead of going to sleep. Trying again. Thank you, those of you patient enough to read through this, for helping me process. Any thoughts either supporting my interpretation or giving me a way to think about it that doesn't make me nauseous would be appreciated.
