Staying in touch
Sep. 17th, 2003 06:57 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gementThe most important thing I got out of Tuesdays with Morrie was the idea of staying in touch with people you care about, which I am phenomenally bad at. I mean, really bad at it.
I got a wedding invitation, months ago, from a friend getting married in Ireland, this weekend. I still haven't replied, despite her asking very clearly for a reply, despite the return address, despite the inclusion of an e-mail address (which I already had memorized). Despite the fact she asked me to sing at her wedding.
Obviously, I can't swing a trip to Ireland right now. It's just not in my priorities. But a reply? What's wrong with me?
I have a friend with cancer who would be delighted if I could just get off my duff far enough to call her once a week. Once a freakin' week. I've called her maybe three times in the last six months.
I'm even worse about people whose contact info I can't keep track of, which is most of them. I have an e-mail address from my college, which I was pleased to see would last forever, so I could keep all my archives, and I wouldn't lose contact with people who didn't have any other means of contacting me.
I haven't checked that account in a year. I still have it. It just feels like too much hassle to check it. Too much hassle to talk to the people I most care about. WTF?
People who stay in good touch with their loved ones, and especially those of you who have had to learn the skill... Help me. Please.
I got a wedding invitation, months ago, from a friend getting married in Ireland, this weekend. I still haven't replied, despite her asking very clearly for a reply, despite the return address, despite the inclusion of an e-mail address (which I already had memorized). Despite the fact she asked me to sing at her wedding.
Obviously, I can't swing a trip to Ireland right now. It's just not in my priorities. But a reply? What's wrong with me?
I have a friend with cancer who would be delighted if I could just get off my duff far enough to call her once a week. Once a freakin' week. I've called her maybe three times in the last six months.
I'm even worse about people whose contact info I can't keep track of, which is most of them. I have an e-mail address from my college, which I was pleased to see would last forever, so I could keep all my archives, and I wouldn't lose contact with people who didn't have any other means of contacting me.
I haven't checked that account in a year. I still have it. It just feels like too much hassle to check it. Too much hassle to talk to the people I most care about. WTF?
People who stay in good touch with their loved ones, and especially those of you who have had to learn the skill... Help me. Please.
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Date: 2003-09-18 08:00 am (UTC)Ugh. Motivations bad. I'm partly terrified people won't remember me or I'll bore them (HA). I'm partly remembering the ackwardness of getting back in touch with people, and the guilty feeling that I don't really have anything to say to them anymore, that our lives have nothing in common, and I really just wish they'd stop talking now... so of course my assumption is that they will feel the same way, see motivation 1.
And then motivation 2 makes me feel horribly self-centered, shallow, and bitchy.