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Dec. 1st, 2011 05:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gementHey, it turns out this work ethic thing means that I haven't opened LJ in days because I'm trying to stay focused. :) I'm coming on long enough to post instead of long enough to read. I've folded 36 cranes and several stellated octahedrons, by the way. (Thanks, ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
tensory, for introducing me to Sonobe units.)
I keep composing a post in my head about my hopelessly androgynous and effeminate male role models, but I think this one has to come first.
I've been catching the misogynist things I yell at myself.
When I try to play first-person video games and get sea sick or don't have the reflexes or I'm put off by the violence level. When I find emotional tension in fiction hotter than body parts (cue slash criticism of "women want to read about men talking about their feelings"). When the crafts keeping me sane on the bus are origami and knitting. The internal response is consistent, and consistently worded.
"God, you're such a GURL."
It's not even the fact that these things are some of the incremental ways that it's difficult for me to be read as male on my guy days. That's just fueling the fire. I am basically self-conscious about liking gurl things. I'm not the only female or female-bodied geek I know with a pink allergy, but I've become very aware lately of how suspiciously I suspect any desire or interest or action that might be gurly.
I'm trying to be patient with myself, but the voice isn't budging, and I'm starting to want to scream at it for poisoning me so consistently.
tensory, for introducing me to Sonobe units.)I keep composing a post in my head about my hopelessly androgynous and effeminate male role models, but I think this one has to come first.
I've been catching the misogynist things I yell at myself.
When I try to play first-person video games and get sea sick or don't have the reflexes or I'm put off by the violence level. When I find emotional tension in fiction hotter than body parts (cue slash criticism of "women want to read about men talking about their feelings"). When the crafts keeping me sane on the bus are origami and knitting. The internal response is consistent, and consistently worded.
"God, you're such a GURL."
It's not even the fact that these things are some of the incremental ways that it's difficult for me to be read as male on my guy days. That's just fueling the fire. I am basically self-conscious about liking gurl things. I'm not the only female or female-bodied geek I know with a pink allergy, but I've become very aware lately of how suspiciously I suspect any desire or interest or action that might be gurly.
I'm trying to be patient with myself, but the voice isn't budging, and I'm starting to want to scream at it for poisoning me so consistently.
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Date: 2011-12-02 01:28 am (UTC)(And I've re-read this comment three times now and keep thinking it sounds wrong. So it should be supportive and helpful, and if I've failed at that tone, I apologize.)
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Date: 2011-12-02 02:58 am (UTC)The discipline for me is not needing it to be butch. (It's okay for yours to be different.)
I need masculine to not be my only highest value. I have no patience for that in the guys who comment on shirt.woot to say that because a shirt has any hint of cuteness about it, it's unwearable by manlymen, and I smell the same "ew, girl cooties" on this reaction of mine.
I do appreciate the "confident in my masculinity" stance, though, and use that one, since I can refer back in my head to admiring other men knitting on the bus.