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Nov. 17th, 2003 02:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Sometimes we really need to say things anonymously, and spilling them to the empty air feels so pointless that we just don't do it. LJ gets people to post partly out of a feeling of anonymity, but it's not anonymous and people will happily pick a fight over each others' words.
I think the ritual of confession, used properly, did and does something really valuable for people.
If there's anything you want to say, to me or to anyone else, or to the world or the space in your heart that's in pain, I'm inviting you to post it as an ANONYMOUS comment to this post.
Say anything you like. I will only delete comments that are not ANONYMOUS, or that attack other anonymous comments. I will not make any attempt to figure out who posted a comment.
jaydedone]Sometimes we really need to say things anonymously, and spilling them to the empty air feels so pointless that we just don't do it. LJ gets people to post partly out of a feeling of anonymity, but it's not anonymous and people will happily pick a fight over each others' words.
I think the ritual of confession, used properly, did and does something really valuable for people.
If there's anything you want to say, to me or to anyone else, or to the world or the space in your heart that's in pain, I'm inviting you to post it as an ANONYMOUS comment to this post.
Say anything you like. I will only delete comments that are not ANONYMOUS, or that attack other anonymous comments. I will not make any attempt to figure out who posted a comment.
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Date: 2003-11-18 09:05 am (UTC)In my case, the attraction is not that they're popular. It's that they're intelligent, sexy, charismatic, strong in the Force, etcetera, all the things that make people popular in the first place. The things that make them fun people to be around.
The awe comes in when I realize that I'm not the first, or even the hundredth person to have made this observation, and that they're booked from here to next Christmas. At that point, any attempt to get into their schedule, which would seem really natural with a non-celebrity, looks clumsy because it almost takes a crowbar.
I have, from time to time, experienced enough personal popularity that I have had to tune new people out that I would otherwise find enjoyable to spend time with. I just didn't have the energy to add anyone else to the rotation.
I don't blame people for doing this; it's perfectly sensible and good boundaries. I just have an attention-grabbing streak from childhood that says if someone's ignoring me in favor of someone else, I want it more. It's the only form of jealousy I buy into, and I wish I didn't, but I haven't had much luck letting it go.